A lot actually. That little four-letter word packs a powerful punch!
Love is the most powerful human emotion and it can make you act in unusual ways. But, why do you fall in love with one person and not another? What is that magic something that attracts you to that special someone?
Harville Hendrix, author of Getting the Love You Want, says, “The most loving relationship is one in which two people are intimately connected … yet keep a respectful distance apart by acknowledging each other’s ‘otherness’.”
Hendrix goes on to explain that we are most attracted to people who have similar qualities as our parents. Subconsciously, we seek to resolve unmet needs of our childhood with our romantic relationships. “We hunger for love from our original caretakers or from people who were so similar to them that on an unconscious level we have them merged,” he says.
Can it be that simple? I’m not so sure. Consider physical attraction, personality, similarity and location – all of which play an important part in falling in love – and things start getting really complicated.
Love may well be one of the most studied, but least understood, behaviors. Phycologists and researchers have long studied love and tried to define it, but it might just be better left as a fascinating mystery of life that can’t be explained.